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From the origin of the first human pair, the role of the wife mother can never be undermined.
The man was lonely and alone, the woman was made for him as a helper and a companion.
the holy books have in all respect given women roles of responsibility, roles that when accomplished will bring fulfillment in a family. life on earth can only be complete when the woman adds
or contribute to the procreation circle.The bible for instance recognizes the woman and accords her importance when it said that a man will
leave his father and mother and must stick to his wife and they will be one flesh.
The importance of women is further emphasized by the enormous duties they owe to their family
and the society at large, a woman who fails to fulfill her role in the family will tamper the
joy of the society in a number of ways, to buttress this point, The 26th President of the United States,
Theodore Roosevelt stated:"It is the tasks connected with the home that are the fundamental tasks
of humanity... if the mother does not do her duty, there will either be no next generation, or a
next generation that is worse than none at all."
Being a mother involves more than just becoming pregnant and giving birth to a child, it in
volves, preparedness, readiness, self-sacrifice, commitment and love. the woman must be prepared
for the task of being a wife and a mother because its demanding and time consuming, but its
more fulfilling than any secular work or profession especially when its done right.
She must be ready and expectant when a baby is on the way, the task of raising a baby needs
careful thought and readiness.She must be able to offer herself for her family, her children needs her love and attention
at all times, and the father too needs care love and attention, so she should be willing to
attend to all these needs when they call.
Commitment is needed because the early stage of catering for a family might seem frustrating
especially when things are not clear or going on smoothly in the family.In March 8, 2003, then UN Secretary-General, Kofi Annan said: "Study after study has shown that
there is no effective development strategy in which women do not play a central role. When women
are fully involved, the benefits can be seen immediately: families are healthier and better fed:
their income, savings and reinvestment go up." this statement confirms that the society at large
can never do without our women, so we appreciate you women and also praise your effort.
the roles of Women(Mother) include but are not limited to the following:
1.She takes care of her children and her household
2.she spends more time with the children, so she acts like the teacher, and disciplinarian
during the formative years and the early stages of life.
3.She is the home keeper, though some time women are allowed to work so that the family can
make ends meet, in that case the role of the woman has add up and the family can plan how
to lessen it.
4.She is meant to be a helper or a complement of the man in all areas and circumstances that
that is worthwhile.
5.She builds her home up in love and cares for her household even at the expense of her own
freedom or time.
6.She sets reasonable standards for her children in the absence of her husband.
WHAT SHOULD BE DONE BY THE WOMAN IN THE FAMILY:
Women independence and divorce has been advocated by so many so-called experts, the resultant
effect of it has been an increase in the rate of divorce, family breakup, misunderstanding,
and even a menace to the society.
Women independence advocates that the woman has equal right with the man, and so therefore
shares equal power with her husband whom the originator of marriage asked them to subject
themselves to. though the woman should not be battered, abued, or controlled like a little
baby or a toy, she should also obey and respect her husband as the head of the family.
Women who truly wants to succeed in their given marital assignment, and live a happier
more fulfilled life of accomplishment, will never practice the theory of independence, which
might seem like a rebellious or insubordinate act.
Running a family though challenging, is easy and fulfilling. when the wife plays her role very
well,she gets the credit and joy of it.
WHEN THE MAN IS UNFAITHFUL
In this case, it could be heartbreaking, and tempting. some relationships and marriages crash
when a mate is unfaithful. its always easier for the man to cheat on the woman than otherwise.
we will try to look at the cause, and steps that can be taken to prevent or stop it as the case
may be.though its heartbreaking, but it should not tear the family apart, as the woman try to
reason and figure out what could have led to that unholy act. every man is a potential animal
sorry that i used such a harsh word, it has connotative other than denotative meaning.
what i mean in this sense is, men are easily given to sex, even to people or girls that you would
have thought that they would never have sex it. a man is created with huge urge for sex and love
and when they are offered one free, might find it difficult to resist, some do, but its always
difficult on a ratio of 5 in 100 men can resist serious seduction. these is not an excuse for
the men to go on misbehaving because they could still have resisted the urge or temptation
The possible reasons that can make a man give in to seduction easily might include the
following, though some men have a problem when it comes to sex:
When they are overly starved of sex from their wife. some women when they make demands from their
spouse and due to some reason he was not able to provide or meet their demands, they immediately
deny him of sex till he is able to provide or meet their demands. though this seems like a
peaceful protest, but it can tear a strong family apart. men have a burning and strong desire
for the opposite sex, either for love or sex. men who have been starved and happen to get a
seemingly caring sheerful giver might find solace in her arms and comfort in her bosom. starving
your man is not the answer to the demands you make, but even a potential axe that can tear
your family into shreds. give him some time maybe he doesn't have the means to meet your
immediate demands but he will when you inspite of everything still show him love, care and
respect.
Another likely reason for unfaithfulness might be nagging. some women nag their husbands to
an extent that they are afraid to come home. men love quiet times and cool moment when you
nag and complain or even shout at them, you are indirectly asking them to look for somewhere
else that is cool and quiet. sometimes they will only go to bars and beer parlors, and one
risk with those kind of places are girls without pride who will do anything to gain what you
loose, if you give them the chance, then they will win.
Another reason might be that you are losing your beauty. some women when they marry they
throw all caution to the air, start eating anyhow and adding unnecessary weight, some dont
even put on those sexy things they use to wear that attracted their husbands at first, NO
once you are married does not mean you are always married, this is the time for you to show
him that you are ever young, still that beautiful sweet sixteen he fell in love with, he
might not have any reason to fool around outside his marriage if you possess all he is about
going to look for.Another painful reason is that some men like varieties. those kind of men, no matter how you
look, do or even behave, they still will cheat on you. in such a case, you should not abandon
your home and run, instead you have to make him change without fighting.
When your man is cheating on you, he might not have the courage to look you in the eye, he
might even start avoiding you technically, when you find out he is cheating on you, dont do
anything stupid, dont confront him, dont let him know that you already know he is cheating.
dont act like you careless, still try as hard as you can to show him love and respect, try to
if you can, increase the love you show him, try to appeal to his conscience. if he knows you know
that he is cheating, he wont need to hide or act secretive, his conscience might die and he
will be worse than ever. try to find out his reason for sleeping outside his matrimonial home
and try to figure out how to help him stop this unholy act.
When you have a misunderstanding with your spouse, always take the initiative to sue for peace
apologize, men like being proud, they might not want to make the first move. men act like
babies, to win your man and save your marriage, you must see your man as another of your baby
infact see him as your little baby that needs pampering, care, love, and attention. when you
do, you will for sure reap the benefit in that your husband will always love you and be proud
of you, and i tell you one truth, he will never cheat on you, you know why? because men have
conscience and will find it very difficult to hurt the one that gives off everything to please
them. try hard to ginger your husbands conscience and keep it awake so that he wont ever let
a stranger in.
The above suggestions if applied will surely enhance the love in your marriage, and ensure
you a happy family life.
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